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Are Men at Birth Important?

Welcome to the Second Edition of the  Black Birth Carnival. Hosted by Darcel of  The Mahogany Way Birth Cafe and Nicole of Musings From The Mind of Sista Midwife.
The Topic: Not Without Our Fathers. So often we talk birth in women circles. We celebrate birth within the feminine community and forget that without the fathers our birth experiences would be non existent. June 17th marks the day many will celebrate fathers in this country. With that in mind we came up with our topic for this installment of the Black Birth Blog Carnival.
This post you will be updated with live links by Noon, linking back to the other participants posts.

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When you think of birth, you automatically think of mother and
baby. Birth is all about the woman’s journey and transformation. We talk about how the woman can prepare her body mind and soul for birth, but we rarely think about the men. They need to prepare, and they go through a journey as well. Men have an idea of how the birth will play out just like women do.

Not too long ago men weren’t allowed to be in the room during birth. Now it’s expected for them to be present. Obstetrician Michel Odent said that a man has no place at the birth. I understand some of his theories and observations, but I don’t agree with him.

I think it’s great that so many men want to be involved in the birth process. They have the choice to be as hands on or off as they choose. Some men want to catch the baby, while others prefer to simply be a presence in the room, or fall in between. It’s up to the individual couple.

Do you ever wonder how a man feels if the birth wasn’t what he expected? What about when a woman has a traumatic birth? Men are affected by that! They just may not talk about it like we do.

Birth is so powerful and spiritual…. magical even!

I loved Charles being present and participating more and more in the births of our children. I relied heavily on him, especially during the last two. He was really great. I loved knowing that he was there for me no matter what I needed. You can’t witness a birth and leave the same way you came in before that experience.

Have you ever listened to a father tell the birth story from his perspective? The joy in their eyes, the excitement in their voice, the look on their face….you know the one…they can’t believe they were witness to such an event.

I believe that if a man is able to, he should submerge himself as much as he’s comfortable with in the pregnancy and birth. This is a great post on why men are needed for more than support during labor and birth.

We all know that Fathers are important in our day-to-day lives, why wouldn’t they be equally as important during a birth?

What do you think? Are men at birth important, or should they leave it all up to the women?

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Please take the time to read and comment on the other participants posts. 

 

 Shahmet at Adia Publishing: A Father Before Birth

Reggie at WhatrUWorkinon?: They’re All Miracles

Nicole at Musings From The Mind of Sista Midwife:  #BlackBirth Not Without Our Fathers

Darcel at The Mahogany Way Birth Cafe: Are Men at Birth Important?

Alexis at The Ivy Expansion: A Fathers Love

Mavhu at F.W. Hargrove: I Birth At Home

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4 thoughts on “Are Men at Birth Important?

  1. I agree that men are important at birth. The woman’s point of view only represents half of the picture; to get the big picture we ned to hear from fathers. I also find it interesting that you mention men’s experiences during and after traumatic births. It is important for me to express their feelings in tese situations so that entire families can heal.

  2. Some of your points some of the questions you ask REALLY have me thinking. I am more and more intersted now to know what men really think about the traumatic births that their partenrs experience. As protectors by nature surely something takes place at the cellular level when they see birth abuse. I look forward to actually exploring this topic more. Thanks for hosting another great Black Birth Carnival!!

  3. Pingback: I Birth At Home | M.Hargrove Blog

  4. My sweet daughter as stated in my post, I wasn’t sure if I was allowed in the delivery room during your birth and didn’t find out until the last minute that I was going in. It was an experience I will never forget although different than what you and Charles have encountered in your birth experiences….your’s and Reg’s birth were life changing for me.

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